Effective Mental Focus - When Not to Focus on What You Want
By Tania Kotsos
Article continued from: What You Must Know About Negative Beliefs, the Laws of Attraction & Polarity
"Place your mental focus on what you want at the exclusion of all else". Sound familiar? You are likely to have heard this advice a countless number of times stated in different ways. On the surface, this may sound like good, solid advice about how to consciously create your reality but, dig a little deeper, and you may find that it is the very reason you fail to do so. This is not because the advice itself is wrong, but rather because the circumstances under which it is prescribed, are unsuitable.
The secret to effective mental focus lies in knowing how to distinguish between when to focus on what you want and when not to; and in the case of the latter, knowing what to focus on instead. There is a very simple method of mental focus that can help by-pass existing negative beliefs and align you with the Laws of Polarity and Attraction in such a way that you create what you want, instead of more of what you do not want. Before examining this method, let us take a look at when you should focus on what you want.
When to Focus on What You Want: Feel free to mentally focus directly on what you want, when it is something you do not have an already existing negative subconscious belief about. How can you tell? Well, if you currently have the "opposite" of what you want in your life, then the chances are, that you have an existing negative belief related to what you want.
The "Magic" of Beginners Luck: Beginners luck is little more than having no negative beliefs associated with what you are doing for the first time. When doing something for the first time, a so-called beginner has absolutely no experience or negative belief about what he or she is doing and usually no attachment to the outcome either. This means that there is nothing to stand in the way of his or her efforts.
The Power of Positive Beliefs: Of course, feel free to focus on what you want when your related, subconscious beliefs are positive and hence, by virtue of the Laws of Attraction and Polarity, bring you more of what you want. For instance, if you are fit and healthy and want to run the marathon then you can focus on yourself running and completing the marathon; if you have a successful business and want to increase sales, you can place your mental focus on the feeling of increasing your sales; or if you are an avid traveller and want to experience a great travelling adventure, you can mentally focus on your next exciting destination.
When Not to Focus on What You Want: It stands to reason that, if you should focus on what you want when your underlying belief is positive; then you should not focus on what you want when the underlying belief is negative. The problem is, that we tend to mentally focus on and want those things that we currently have the "opposite" of, and this usually means that there is a negative subconscious belief underlying our current experience. An obvious question then is, if you should not focus on what you want, then what should you focus on?
Effective Mental Focus - The By-Product Method: There is a very simple yet powerful mental focus method that you can use to by-pass a negative belief when consciously creating your reality. It is called Effective Mental Focus - The By-Product Method. The trick is to place your mental focus on something that is a by-product of what you want but not specifically what you want. In other words, mentally focus on something that you do not have a specific negative belief about but, that in order to experience it, you must also have that which you actually want. This may sound complicated but it is really very simple.
Think big and keep away from the specifics. As long as your subconscious mind does not have an existing negative or opposite belief to contradict that by-product image, then it will not fight or "sabotage" your attempts. In other words, it is a way of granting yourself beginners luck and is even more effective when the by-product image is based on an existing positive belief. The by-product that you choose to focus on should resonate with you. The less it is related to your existing negative belief, the better it is. Here are some examples for illustrative purposes.
If you have a problem with trust in a relationship, then instead of specifically focussing on a trustworthy partner, focus on having a loving family with your partner and children. Focus on playing games with your partner and children, having fun, laughing and feeling totally confident and at peace. You can go further and see yourself totally at ease as you go about your day-to-day tasks and looking forward to seeing your partner later during the day. The only way you could experience this scene in reality is if you trusted your partner but you are not mentally focussing on the specifics of a trustworthy partner. Instead you are focussing on a by-product of having a partner you totally trust, without having your subconscious mind fight your attempts.
If you want to shed some extra weight, then instead of specifically focusing on yourself being slim, pick a physical activity that you would like to complete and mentally focus on that instead. For instance, place your mental focus on completing a half-marathon. Training to run a half-marathon of course would most likely get you to shed that unwanted weight, without it being your mental focus and hence, without the back-lash of your subconscious mind. This is because your subconscious mind is unlikely to have a specific belief around your running a half-marathon and will be more readily willing to accept this image, even though it is logically more difficult to successfully complete a half-marathon than to simply shed some extra kilos.
If you want to improve your finances, instead of specifically focussing on having more money, see yourself giving it away, whether it means placing your mental focus on donating to different charities or giving expensive gifts to family and friends that they really want. In order to do this of course, you must first have money (and probably much more of it than you need to cover just your basics), but since your specific mental focus is not on having money, your subconscious mind is unlikely to fight you.
A By-Product Image Can Help Change Your Negative Beliefs: The Law of Polarity (as explained in part one) also applies to your beliefs. Within each of your negative beliefs, there is also the potential of its equivalent positive and "opposite" belief. The great news is, that by consistently placing your mental focus on a by-product image without focussing on any specific aspect of that which you actually want, your subconscious mind will more readily and easily allow for the transmutation of an existing negative belief into its positive equivalent. Basically, you keep your subconscious mind pre-occupied with an image it has no negative belief about, while indirectly transforming those negative beliefs that do not match the new, positive by-product image.
In a nutshell, the subject of your mental focus is the key to determining what you attract and create in your life. Simply focussing on what you want, however, can derail your attempts to consciously create your reality, specifically when you have a negative belief underlying what you want. The Law of Attraction and Polarity may work together to bring you what you want but, as long as you focus on something you have a negative belief about, the chances are you will get more of the same. The secret to effective mental focus in the face of a negative belief, is to place your focus on something that is a by-product of what you want but not specifically what you want. This keeps your subconscious mind from fighting your conscious mental focus and ensures the creation of your intended outcome, while also helping to transmute your negative beliefs into their positive equivalent.